I cancelled my day
Said goodbye to what’s next
Let go of my striving.
I crumple under the weight
Of impossible expectation
Realizing that I am both essential
And completely meaningless
When it comes to the world’s turning.
Poetry, short prose, & general musings.
I cancelled my day
Said goodbye to what’s next
Let go of my striving.
I crumple under the weight
Of impossible expectation
Realizing that I am both essential
And completely meaningless
When it comes to the world’s turning.
We stood there frozen, limbs paralyzed, unable to move or speak. The two men carrying knives sneered and their eyes darted furiously, believing they had caught us. Just as I was mustering the courage to say something, anything, in an effort to scare them off, the distinct double click of a rifle cocking echoed around us. I looked intently at the robbers, thinking it was a weapon from their stash, but saw nothing. Then a voice, soft yet severely sharp, came from behind me, “Get out of my house right now or I’ll blow your heads to kingdom come.” It was momma. She had come in through the patio door, grabbing Daddy’s gun on the mantle on her way. Later we realized it wasn’t loaded, but that didn’t matter in the moment. The two men, faces frustrated but knowing their position, skittered out of the door quickly and into the night. Janie and I fell into Momma’s arms and cried. I sobbed harder than I had even at Daddy’s funeral. It was like the trauma of this horrifying experience had broken the dam I had built inside me after such immense loss. The lack of Momma’s tenderness over the last months didn’t matter in that moment of motherly protection. That was the first time she had truly hugged us in many months since our worlds had been turned upside down. I had no idea what the morning would bring, but in some small way, I thanked these two men for unintentionally breaking the walls that had so quickly been built between us, even if for a moment.
I see you
Thin, muscular arms
Shaggy, dirty blond hair
Unruly cowlicks like mine
Now swept to the side
Finally tamed by years of experimenting
You’re here
In this foreign land
You chose to come
For your special time
Your 32nd birthday
To spend with me & my new family
You chase my kids around the yard
Trip says, “Uncle, J.D.! Can you be the monster?”
Blake says “Yes- chase us, chase us!”
You do. Over and over.
I smile. Watching you.
Your gentle heart.
You aren’t married.
You are figuring out you.
You are the best uncle.
Time has finally taught me
To show you grace.
To let go of my
Severe, stupid, silly
Expectations.
You show me the same grace.
We sit outside in the pleasant May evening
Sipping Old Fashioneds
Laughing about how we could have never imagined it as kids.
Time has taught me
And has also stolen so much
I wish you could hear my plea
My apologies.
How I wish my imagination
Could conjure this picture into reality.
If I could go back in time
Stand in front of the girl I once was
I wonder what I might say to her
I have compassion for all that she did not know
I feel frustrated at what she refused to learn
I long to embrace her
To let her know that she will grow, become strong
We would sit down for coffee
I would place my hand over hers
And ensure her that she is loved, capable, beautiful.
When she starts to give me rebuttals
About why my words aren’t true
I would snap my fingers in her face
Tell her to wake up and live in the present
Will I have this same moment – ten years from now
About who I am today?
Can I transcend to a higher plane
Without the foundation of time?
Many say they have no regrets.
I say there are moments that I would change.
Can I receive this with gratitude?
To know that what has gone wrong has value.
May I live today with thankfulness and patience
Giving myself grace for every version of me.


